louwhoz
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How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 10, 2007 at 2:58 PM
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I know this sounds stupid, but I'm truly stumped. I was curious how some of you have handled similar situations. 
How do you tell the difference between someone just being nice or someone pushing the envelope? What about when it's work related?
I just had a client call me. He wants to come by and pick up some paperwork. I work alone, however, I have a nice office in a safe place, so usually I'm not worried. But this time I didn't like the 'tone' on the other end of the phone.
Bottom line: What he said to me made me feel uncomfortable. He's my client. He pays his bills on time. What do I say? What would you?
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Tecknixia
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 10, 2007 at 3:09 PM
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Maybe Gideon could be there when the guy comes for the paperwork?
I wish I could give you advice, but people confuse me, so I'm not very good at stuff like this.
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Sonic Wallpaper
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 10, 2007 at 3:11 PM
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I think you should consult your boss and ask what the company policy is for handling such things. I'm sure there's a few ways to say "back off" in a nice manner.
I'd just say, "While personal compliments are kind, it's best to not offer them in a business relationship. Compliments and feedback on our work is much more appropriate."
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louwhoz
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 10, 2007 at 3:38 PM
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[/quote]"While personal compliments are kind, it's best to not offer them in a business relationship. Compliments and feedback on our work is much more appropriate."[quote] Hmmmm....so I take it you don't like my client's hitting on me? 
I did tell the big, burly airplane dudes in the office next to me that I had a client coming over, and that they should listen for my screams. That was fun! But no need to worry, he is gone now, with paperwork in hand. Mission accomplished! I did notice that he could not look me in the eye while he was here, so he must no he crossed a line and feels guilty about it. Grrrrrrr...
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Tecknixia
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 10, 2007 at 3:50 PM
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I'm glad to hear everything went well 
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louwhoz
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 10, 2007 at 4:12 PM
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Me too! 
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Kylo
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Saturday, August 11, 2007 at 12:42 PM
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I would judge by actions. (Do you have pepper spray btw?)
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LoveCraft's Adjectives
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Monday, August 13, 2007 at 2:57 PM
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Say "Back Off" in a nice manner. Can't go wrong there 
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Monday, August 13, 2007 at 2:59 PM
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But, hey, I woulda looked you in the eye . . . the wimp
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louwhoz
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Tuesday, August 14, 2007 at 9:47 AM
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No pepper spray or stun gun...both of which I would like. 
I did talk to my boss about it and he said that from now on I can meet all of my clients 'off site' and somewhere public. Yea!
Thanks again for your input. Many minds are better than one...or none.
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Friday, August 17, 2007 at 10:29 PM
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louwhoz wrote:I did talk to my boss about it and he said that from now on I can meet all of my clients 'off site' and somewhere public.
If Leanne were in a similar situation, I would insist on it (as would she). No sense putting yourself in harm's way, right?
Glad everything worked out OK.
“Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius — and a lot of courage — to move in the opposite direction.” Albert Einstein
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reconsiderate
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Monday, October 1, 2007 at 8:06 PM
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Along the same lines as the pepper spray (defending yourself), it's probably a good idea to study some kind of martial art, assuming you don't already do so, which you very well might. If all that someone is doing is complimenting you over the phone, then that's at most a psychic / emotional / social injury. But if someone were ever to do something physically... well, let's just say that pepper spray might not be enough.
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louwhoz
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RE: How do you handle unwanted compliments?
Tuesday, October 2, 2007 at 7:09 PM
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You're right, of course...I should take a few lessons. It's been years since I've done anything like that. I tend to 'fight' more than 'flight', so it might be good to know what I'm doing.
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